Business is a Right of Passage

WARNING: Long Post, but TOTALLY worth the time and laughs guaranteed ๐Ÿ˜‰

This week I made my last payment for the purchase of my finance brokerage Lifestyle Finance Aus Pty Ltd.

My greatest lesson thus far…

๐—•๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ถ๐˜!!!

The moment I realised this and surrendered to the process, the easier and more enjoyable the journey got and itโ€™s been one hell of a journey ๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™‰.

So what has it taken to finally create a stable business that gives me a level of true fulfillment, time freedom, money freedom, and is built on the back bone of my self-expression and serves humanity and helps the collective shift to a new level of consciousness.

Well…

๐Ÿฐ ๐—™๐—”๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—˜๐—— businesses and a mammoth amount of personal development, soul searching, evolution, business mentors and a willingness to fail over and over again, until I became who I needed to be, to become a vibrational match for my dreams to manifest.

And a deep acceptance that no matter where i am on this journey, that this process continues…

And I can either get all significant about it, or make peace with the fact that this is the process and get playful with it, have fun with it and most importantly… Learn!

I see so many people wanting to get into business thinking itโ€™s going to save them from their current situation…

And I can say this because I sure did.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜‚๐˜€, ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—น ๐˜‚๐˜€!

The amount of โ€˜๐— ๐—”๐—š๐—œ๐—–๐—”๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—›๐—œ๐—ก๐—ž๐—œ๐—ก๐—šโ€™ I had around this was insane!!!! ๐Ÿ˜ณ

And I was a sucker for a โ€˜๐—š๐—˜๐—ง ๐—ฅ๐—œ๐—–๐—›โ€™ promise!! ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ’ธ

One of my failed businesses was for a natural health product, promising โ€˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜€ & ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ด๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€โ€™ and they were looking for โ€˜๐—œ๐—ก๐—ฉ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—ข๐—ฅ๐—ฆโ€™…

They wanted a $32000 Cash Buy In for 5% of the company. ๐Ÿ’ฐ๐Ÿ’ฐ๐Ÿ’ฐ

They were promising a return of $100k+ within a couple of years and the return was guaranteed to continue to grow. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

โ€˜Beautyโ€™ I thought! Just the thing I was looking for… ๐Ÿค‘๐Ÿค‘๐Ÿค‘

So I did โ€˜๐—ช๐—›๐—”๐—ง ๐—˜๐—ฉ๐—˜๐—ฅ ๐—œ๐—ง ๐—ง๐—ข๐—ข๐—žโ€™ and got the money ๐Ÿ’ฐ together and handed over everything I had – no sighting or signing of contracts… No looking at market research, product research or company background checks. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Just here you go! Blind FAITH… Cash deposit – done!!! โœ… โœ… โœ… ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

Might I add this was against the good advise of the friends I did have who were in business, but I was certain this would work and I knew better!! ๐Ÿ™ˆ

My psychic healer at the time who was also invested in this company told me she had a good feeling about it and I should get in now. ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ bahahahahaha

This was it, my big shot!! ๐Ÿคฉ๐Ÿฅณ Hahahaha! ๐Ÿคฃ

And I started putting my heart and soul into selling this product. I had stands in all the health and wellness festivals that year, I was ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—œ๐—ก!!

As you can imaging this ๐—™๐—”๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—˜๐—— spectacularly, ๐Ÿ’ฃ I would have done better spending this money on buying lotto tickets.

And after managing to suck a whole lot of โ€˜๐— ๐—”๐—š๐—œ๐—–๐—”๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—›๐—œ๐—ก๐—ž๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—ฆโ€™ ๐Ÿงšโ€โ™€๏ธ like myself in, the guy who owned most of the company died of Bowel Cancer… ๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š

One of the very things the product was meant to have cured him from. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

And there went my dream and all of my โ€˜๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—™๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—”๐—ฉ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š๐—ฆโ€™ I had poured into the initial investment and all the EXTRA money I put into traveling around to the festivals. ๐Ÿ™ˆ

At this time in my life I was stripping ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ’ƒ… So that was a ๐—Ÿ๐—ข๐—ง of lap dances I just torched and my Exit Plan, shattered!!!!! ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฃ

So, I was back at the Ground 0, bank account $0, ego and pride shattered by my foolishness and a little jaded by the people in this world…

But I learnt… and I learn real fast! ๐Ÿค“๐Ÿ˜Š

And trust me when I say โ€˜๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฑ๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐—ณ๐—ณ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ด๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป.โ€˜

But luckily I had a few things going for me..

๐Ÿ’ช Resilience… Something my childhood forced me to develop by the bucket load.๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐Ÿ‘ถ Youth… I was only 28 ๐Ÿ‘

๐Ÿ”ฅ A burning desire to make something of my life and make a difference in the world ๐ŸŒ

๐Ÿ’ƒ And my Hustle Game was on point,๐Ÿ˜‰ so back to stripping I went and it wouldnโ€™t take too long to cash in on those lap dances and I would have the cash to go again. ๐Ÿ˜

This time though, I was going to be smarter… ๐Ÿง๐Ÿ˜‰

No more falling for the โ€˜Get Rich Quick Investments!โ€™๐Ÿ˜‰

Letโ€™s go back to what I know…

Letโ€™s build something I have total โ€˜๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—ง๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—Ÿโ€™ over and really enjoy.

So, I opened a personal training business, I already had my Cert 4 in Fitness…

โ€˜Shouldnโ€™t be too hardโ€™ I thought, Iโ€™ll just lean back on the fact I was a World Champion Water Skier.

And I intimately know how to build and take care of a body and I leant so much about nutrition with that health product…

So, with my new lot of ‘๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—™๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—”๐—ฉ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š๐—ฆโ€™ from all those lap dances I had been doing… ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

I hired a space, brought all of the fancy gym equipment and declared myself:

โ€˜๐—ข๐—ฃ๐—˜๐—ก ๐—™๐—ข๐—ฅ ๐—•๐—จ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ฆโ€™ ๐Ÿคฉ

Alpha Fitness & Wellbeing was born!๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

I was so proud of myself and I really thought this idea was about as fool proof as I was going to get!!

Wrong again!!! ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

This time I learnt to have a successful business, there is so much more to it than just being highly skilled, giving great service, getting awesome results and having a space…

There this whole other thing called โ€˜๐— ๐—”๐—ฅ๐—ž๐—˜๐—ง๐—œ๐—ก๐—šโ€™… ๐Ÿ˜ฉ

And I hated it!

It didnโ€™t make sense to me, I didnโ€™t enjoy anything about it, I certainly didnโ€™t want to have to publicly share about myself or my life on social media. Ekkkk! ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿคฏ

I just wanted the clients to come to me bacause I was great at what I did!!

And with that thinking, thank god my โ€˜Lap Danceโ€™ business was strong ๐Ÿ˜‰ and allowed me to keep pouring money into my new venture, otherwise it would have been over before it even started. Hahaha! ๐Ÿ˜‚

So instead of learning how to online market like my mentors were advising, I thought I could bypass it and it didnโ€™t apply to me…

So in my brilliance, ๐Ÿค” I thought… โ€˜letโ€™s learn coachingโ€™… it makes total sense, I lovvvvvve Human Behaviour… ๐Ÿค”

If I have more skills and I can solve more problems and I can make way more of a difference to peopleโ€™s lives…

Surely more people will want to work with me now! ๐Ÿคฉ๐Ÿคฉ๐Ÿคฉ

Be a person of โ€˜high value & make a ๐—•๐—œ๐—š differenceโ€™ right…?

Nope… ๐—ช๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—ก๐—š again…! ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

All this did was wake me up to all of my gaps and show me how much inner work I had to do to get to where I wanted to be.

Urgggg… so exhausting! ๐Ÿฅต

My entitled ๐—ก๐—˜๐—˜๐—— for instant gratification was ๐—›๐—”๐—ง๐—œ๐—ก๐—š this!!! ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

By this point I had invested at least $60k into Mentors, my personal growth and development, plus another $10k on the fit out of my studio and $6k into a website that wasnโ€™t really set up for lead capture.

I wasnโ€™t making anywhere near enough to cover my basic living costs and being in a strip club was becoming unbearable…

I was feeling pretty defeated and in total adrenal burnout.. ๐Ÿ˜“

I remember thinking… Maybe I just wasnโ€™t meant for business.

I just couldnโ€™t get this whole marketing piece figured out…

Bless that version of me… if only I knew then what I know now… hindsight… right!! ๐Ÿคช๐Ÿคช๐Ÿคช

Anyways as fate would have it, Gaby Kowalski, my BFF ๐Ÿ‘ฏโ€โ™€๏ธ offered me a part time gig in her finance brokerage back in 2014… – mostly because I think she felt sorry for me… hahaha! ๐Ÿคฉ๐Ÿคฉ๐Ÿคฉ ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

She said: โ€˜why donโ€™t you come and learn finance with me, you can stop stripping and build your business on the side and worst case senario, you will have a solid career that will make you easily employable if you need it.โ€™๐Ÿ’ฐ๐Ÿ’ฐ๐Ÿ’ฐ

I was like ๐—›๐—˜๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ฌ๐—˜๐—ฆ!!! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

I just had to get out of stripping, I didnโ€™t care how at this point. I just had to get out, it was killing my soul by the end and I jumped at this opportunity.

Although this path has been the one with the most flow, it sure came with some hard lessons and has whipped me into shape the most! ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคช๐Ÿคช๐Ÿคช

My first 12 months in Finance was a continuous face off with my Inner Rebel… ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

I was all about doing things โ€˜my wayโ€™ and โ€˜close enough was good enoughโ€™ in my opinion…

And In finance thereโ€™s just no tolerance for this because finance is all about following a process and accuracy.

In the early days I used to shake with anxiety every time I submitted a deal because I feared what it was going to be flagged for. ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

I never realised just how much I was wired to go against the grain of everything, following a simple process seemed impossible to me.

The worst part was I intellectually got it, but I was unconsciously hard wired to do the exact opposite. ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ

I literally had to unlearn how I learnt and relearn how to do this…

No wonder I couldnโ€™t make any of my past businesses work… ๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜‚

It was excruciating ๐Ÿ˜– it felt like I was dying a 1000 deaths on a daily basis.

I even remember at times crying with frustration that I couldnโ€™t for the life of me get this right. ๐Ÿ˜ข

But I was devoted… ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ƒ

I was willing to do whatever it took to transform this part of myself and make this work.

I could see the pain it was causing in every area of my life.

Lucky for me I was a GUN at sales, relationship management and negotiations, so Gaby was willing to forgive my continuous mistakes in the process part of the job.

And in time… like lots of time, persistence & repartition, my processing got better and better.

Gaby believed in me, she taught me how to believe in me again and generously gave me a bucket load of love & much needed mentoring. ๐ŸŽ“โค๏ธ๐ŸŽ“โค๏ธ

This was one of the greatest gifts I have ever received and definitely something I will always be eternally grateful for ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜

And eventually an opportunity presented itself where I could become a partner in the brokerage…

But it meant I had to let go of my coaching business.

Alpha Fitness & Wellbeing, in that time, had transformed into a small 12 month Mastermind Program called Exceptional Living.

And believe it or not my marketing was finally starting to connect… ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚

But I had been doing soul work and my multidimensionality was starting to come online and my soul was telling me to wrap up the coaching business and go full time finance and fully commit to this opportunity whole heartedly.

Even though it made no sense at the time, I wrapped up the coaching business and went ‘๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—œ๐—ก’ with Finance.

Fast forward another year and I had the opportunity to buy the brokerage in its entirety and I took it.

Not only was there this opportunity, but the brokerage was starting to transform into a vehicle to make a real difference in the world and help leaders amplify their messages which made my heart sing ๐ŸŽตโค๏ธ๐ŸŽต

We realised we could use personal loan finance to finance coaching packages and programs. ๐Ÿ’ก ๐Ÿ’ก ๐Ÿ’ก

We had an opportunity to make the education people so desperately need, more affordable and accessible than ever before and solve ๐Ÿฏ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€ coaching business have…

๐Ÿญ. ๐—–๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† & ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† – ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ $๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฌ๐—ธ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ $๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฌ๐Ÿฌ ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜

๐Ÿฎ. ๐—–๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ต ๐—™๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ – ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—น๐—น ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐Ÿญ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ป๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€

๐Ÿฏ. ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€ – ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜๐˜€๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†.

This excited me soooooo MUCH and the potential ripple effect to shift the collective consciousness in MASSIVE way is huge.

2 years on, Lifestyle Finance Aus now supports over 90 Epic leaders and game changers by backing their coaching packages with finance…

When my soul gave me the nudge to go โ€˜๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—œ๐—กโ€™ with finance, I had no idea ๐Ÿ’ก this was where it was headed or even possible.

This experience has really shown me, itโ€™s not always about finding your purpose or passion…

Itโ€™s about finding purpose and passion in what you do.

I wasnโ€™t looking for Finance, it found me! I just wanted to make a difference with my life.

And this week I made the last payment for the full ownership of this incredible business I love so much, signifying the completion of a huge right of passage for me… โค๏ธ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜

So, with that in mind Iโ€™ll leave you with this final thought…

I know so many amazing business owners have been impacted by the โ€˜Cโ€™ word and I hope if you take anything away from my story itโ€™s this…

If someone as clueless & naive in the world ๐ŸŒŽ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ of business as I was, who continuously failed so spectacularly ๐Ÿ˜‚ can make it this far, so can anyone else.

The mistakes and the ups and downs are part of it and youโ€™ll get there if you keep going.

If something doesnโ€™t work, dust yourself off and go again…

Follow your nudges, itโ€™s your soul trying to say โ€˜this wayโ€™… ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

Be devoted to the journey and your evolution, itโ€™s key! ๐Ÿ”‘

Commit to your dream with every aspect of your being with unwavering certainty.

And remember the only thing that kills the spirit is staying down.

Despite what your pride might say, your soul always has it in the tank to go again!!! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

You got this!!!

Much Love

Kel ๐Ÿ™‚ โค๏ธ
๐™‡๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™‡๐™ž๐™›๐™š ๐™‰๐™ค๐™ฌ!

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